live by choice

not by habit

“I am afraid that this all there is for me...”

 Here we are; at 30, 40, 50, 60. After all this time, we still have no idea how this whole life thing works. We haven’t achieved fame or riches or even contentment. Instead, we find ourselves breaking the same resolutions, falling into the same bad habits, making new and bigger mistakes. We are still doing things we don’t like for people we don’t agree with.


As the years go by, we try to accept that maybe it’s just not in the cards for us. Maybe we are just average. But part of us can’t help but yearn for more. Where did we go wrong? How did we fail to meet all that potential we once had?


I know; the pain of trying to live this way is excruciating. You are trapped between resigning yourself to mundanity and the impossible dream. And it doesn’t matter how many books you read, or how many TED talks you listen to. The answer isn’t someone else’s to give you, it’s your job to find.


Kant famously wrote, “I need not think, so long as I can pay.” A strange quote to put on a page that is selling things, I know. I am not here to sell you pat answers to impossible questions. I am here to challenge you to discover the answers for yourself.

There is no single answer. I couldn't sell it to you if I wanted to. The right answer for you, is in you.  You trusting yourself. You learning how to take care of yourself. You standing up for yourself. You embracing what you are- even if no one understands. You making your contribution to this world- even if no one will like, share or pay for it.


There is a great deal of learning that is required on such a journey. But I cannot sell a 10-step answer to your crisis for meaning. I can show you a method of finding answers. I can give you perspective shifts that have helped me. I can help you get out of your own way. I can teach you skills to make better choices. But you must do the work.


You must be brave enough to let yourself be who you are; and what’s more- to love it.


It would be my honor to accompany you on that path.